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June 11, 2010

Performing Beyond Your Limits

After the recent women’s French Open Final, the winner Francesca Schiavone, was asked to describe her game. She replied, ‘going over the limits  and being everything you can be in two hours.’ I wonder how many of us could say the same thing about our performance and results.

 My belief is that most of us limit ourselves not by the competition or the resources we have available but by always listening to our own (often critical) inner voice which is forever filtering what we can and cannot do e.g. ‘I cannot do this because I am nor creative enough’. Our noisy, incessant judge restricts our performance and hampers our ability to achieve our full potential.

 But what informs this critical filtering voice? My suggestion is what I call the Nine Fears.

These are:

1.       The fear of being wrong

 2.       The fear of being different

 3.       The fear of excelling or being outstanding

 4.       The fear of change

 5.       The fear of failure

 6.       The fear of responsibility e.g. becoming a parent or a leader

 7.       The fear of not being perfect

 8.       The fear of the new

 9.       The fear of criticism

 These 9 fears are a powerful force that can intimidate or scare you to only except the safe, proven and incremental. They can force you to become less that you are capable of. Or as Spencer Johnson asks all of us, ‘What would you do if you weren’t afraid?’

 So how do you overcome some or all of these 9 fears? My suggestion is to try Speed Thinking. My theory is that because you have to create nine possibilities in 2 minutes you are too busy to listen to your own barracking crowd telling you what you can’t do.

 You simply are—you create, decide or solve problems with your authentic, creative self. You can glimpse your true potential.

 Try it – it’s truly empowering.

Ken Hudson is the pioneering developer of Speed Thinking and you can find out more about this amazing productivity tool at http://www.speedthinkingzone.com

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The Value of A Question

In the front of my copy of “The Bourne Deception” – book 7 of Robert Ludlum’s highly successful thriller franchise (with Eric Van Lustbader), there is the following dedication:-

“For Jeff, who started it all with one simple question…”

Ludlum’s book sales are now well past 300 million, in 32 languages, in 50+ countries (not forgetting 3 memorable movies). One question made it happen!

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June 10, 2010

Be Yourself – No, Really!

Question: “If no one told who you were, who would you be?”

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May 25, 2010

Looking for What’s Valuable

“We have to see past the thorns to enjoy the beauty of the rose” Martin Haworth

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May 24, 2010

One Step Change Works Best

“When making significant change, it’s best to go the whole way once, rather than half-way twice.” Martin Haworth

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May 21, 2010

Just Do It – Make that Decision!

“Generally, there aren’t any decisions that are 100 per cent right or wrong” – Mikeal Blomkvist, The Girl Who Kicked the Hornet’s Nest (Steig Larsson)

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May 18, 2010

The Value of Questions

“Every question makes a difference, in at least some small way” Martin Haworth

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May 8, 2010

Risk Taking – or Not

“What kind of man can live where there is no daring?
I don’t believe in taking foolish chances.
But nothing can ever be accomplished by taking no chance at all”

Charles Lindbergh

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May 2, 2010

Silence, The Best Questioner

“He found that often silence was the best way to get people to talk and reveal themselves.” Harry Bosch
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April 13, 2010

Sharing Responsibilities in Building Workplace Relationships

Over time, relationships between managers and employees have not always been at their best.

The way forward for both sides to be satisfied in their work experience and results, is to park this history and move on. It’s all about shared responsibility.

To get the best from employees, managers need to make sure that they create an environment where their people can be of their best at all times (OK, maybe with the occasional hiccup!). This involves both sides in trusting each other to look out for each other, where they can.

Building successful workplace relationships in of value to everyone in any of the regular interactions they have together. ‘Not getting on’ is simply ‘Not good enough’ any more.

To have an effective relationship, there has to be value created for both sides, so they have a return on the time and effort they invest together.

Managers (supervisors; team leaders; CEOs; whatever) of this world want results that will improve their standing and support the development of the organization – however small or large it is. Then they are safer in their role and even have the opportunity to progress.

Employees, who up to now have been sitting firmly on the other side of the desk, want survival for their job in this uncertain world in which we live and also want fulfilment, development, excitement, challenge and success (and more!) themselves too!

Both sides need each other to understand how they can help each other achieve their goals, so the shared responsibility to get on with each other well is part of the deal.

Of course, where existing ‘rivalries’ are currently in place, bringing together extreme positions is always going to be the most challenging, of course – and it can be done. There is no magic formula here and only by gently building trust through good communication skills together, will relationships start to get better.

Of course employees might expect the driver of better relationships to be their line manager. After all, they probably feel most ‘done to’ by the organization, the most accessible lead of which is their immediate boss. Of course any capable manager would already understand their obligations in this area and be taking action themselves.

There’s more to it than that.

Employees who are prepared to hold out that flag of truce are themselves taking up the responsibility, which ultimately (and hopefully) will lead to better work experiences for themselves and their colleagues as well.

Managers, who are worth their salt here, will do well to observe the significant effort being made by one or more of their team, reflect upon it and acknowledge their ‘head above the parapet’ attitude, by meeting them at least half way in their own response to the initiative.

It’s unacceptable these days, to cast blame for poor relationships on ‘the other side’. What can, and must happen, for the benefit of all, is that everyone who wants the best environment to work in, makes the effort and shares responsibility for the relationships they have with each other, whatever past experiences might imply.

All parties must share the responsibility for creating worthwhile workplace relationships and once this opportunity is recognized, there is the potential for rapidly accessing benefits for everyone, in the goals and experiences they each seek.

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